Candid Club

Oh, how time flutters away. This was two years ago.

Princess and I were with our colleagues – the good ol’ cocktail Friday crew. We hadn’t been like that in years due to the pandemic. And after months of Zoom fatigue, being out in the world again was healing.

Somewhere between the drinks and the throwback songs, I remember how good it felt to laugh, move, and just be human together.

Something in it, maybe the freedom of the moment, made me want to get up and dance. Normally, I’d just sit back too. But for some reason that night, I let go.

And that moment changed how I saw friendship.

When you dare to express yourself, the right ones see you. They recognize the freedom in your energy and join in. They see your spark and think, “Oh, she’s a kindred spirit.”

For a long time, I thought finding my “people” was about putting effort into going to the right events, joining the cliques, saying the right things.

But it’s never been about chasing connection. It’s about living honestly enough that your energy becomes an invitation.

Back then, I was just beginning to understand what real connection looked like, especially among women.

If I had to describe what sisterhood feels like, it’s that same energy from the concert but softer. The ease of being around women who see you, not for what you produce or how “put together” you are, but for how you exist in the world.

Like I shared in another blog, that’s the soul of Candid Club.

P and I started talking about creating a space for that. Not just for us, but for other women who craved the same thing. A way of saying: You don’t have to figure it all out alone.

A kind of women’s circle where ladies could come as they are — burnt out, unsure, inspired, in transition — and still feel like they belong.

Because we’ve seen what happens when women witness each other without competition. Something inside you starts to heal. The part that’s been comparing, performing, doubting — it finally exhales.

You realize that sisterhood isn’t just a support system — it’s a mirror. The right women reflect back the parts of yourself you’ve been neglecting.

If this topic stirred something in you, try writing a love letter to your soul sisters — past, present, and future.

You can start with the women who have already been part of your story — the ones who showed up during messy chapters, the ones who saw you without needing you to explain yourself. Tell them what that meant to you.

Then write to the friends you’ve lost touch with. The ones who were right for a certain season. Thank them for what they gave, even if the connection faded.

And finally, write to the women you haven’t met yet — the ones you can feel are on their way. Describe what kind of energy you hope to share with them. What you want friendship to feel like.

If you need a nudge, try starting with:

• “I’m grateful for the way you…”
• “You reminded me that I could…”
• “Here’s what I’ve learned from being your friend…”
• “If you ever forget how powerful you are, I’ll remind you…”
• “To the friend I haven’t met yet, here’s what I hope we find in each other.”

This small exercise is less about the letters themselves and more about noticing how much connection already exists around you and how open you are to what’s still coming.

Because sisterhood isn’t only about the friends we have right now.

It’s about the quiet ways we keep making space for each other — even across time and distance.